exesise 19

men are odd.
you ask them to tell you about their emotions and they tell you what they're thinking. In all sincerity. As if they can't tell the difference.

Examples.

Male Number One is going thru a bit of personal upheaval - what i'd call an emotional experience. I ask him how he feels about it.
"Confused" he says.
Confused? Isn't confusion a state of mind, rather than an emotion?

Man Number Two's niece is very ill in hospital.
How does her sister feel about all this, i ask.
"She doesn't want her sister to die."
I am in some way shocked by the obviousness of the statement. If the situation weren't so serious i'd say "Well Der. No-one wants her sister to die. Tell me something i don't know."
And so i am left to infer, from this factual statement about her thoughts, that she feels all the unhappy emotions things you'd obviously expect one to feel in this circumstance.
What else could she possibly be feeling?
Maybe therefore his answer was fair.
Ask a stupid question...

But i'm not here to defend these men.
Maybe it's a deflecting mechanism - to avoid having to face up to emoshuns. Maybe it's simply an inevitable function of how their brains are wired up.
And is it only men? Have i just not noticed women doing it?